Friday, May 11, 2012


I was recently talking to a friend, who decided to take charge of her life. Exactly as I've experienced, she also came to a point that she just couldn't take being that unhappy any more and decided to do something about it.

And so she is, and I'm incredibly proud of her.

But I digress...

The real point I was getting at was that she mentioned that she has to sift through everything in her life. And in particular, her future plans. She wasn't certain if what she was planning to do is what she's supposed to do. And then, she said that she wasn't even sure how to go on...

Short answer: We don't. Not immediately.

When we come to the realization that we're unhappy with our lives, we need to find what makes us happy all over again. We can't do that by regretting and resenting things in our past, or getting stuck rushing towards the future. We need to learn to live and find ourselves in the present first.

Makes sense, right?


Doesn't make it easy. Because in the beginning stages, this implies not having ANY plans. AT ALL. PERIOD. Nor do we have anything with which to measure success. At least, that's what I found from my experience.

The reason for this is that we need to give the reins to our life back to God. And we can't do that if we're still in that space where we're the only ones calling the shots. We need to clean the slates of our lives before we can let God write on them.

And unless He's the one doing the writing, we'll never be truly happy. Because He knows better than we do, what we need in our lives and futures.

When we spoke about this, my friend pointed out that the uncertainty of being without any plans is terrifying.

It is. Very terrifying. It took me a lot of will power to keep myself from starting on any of the plans that my mind created just to form a framework that I was used to. But I had to do it, because I knew if I acted on those impulses, that I'd be just as badly off as before. So I forced myself to wait until I grew comfortable with not knowing where I was headed.

And then (It took me about a year of doing what I had to, but not planning for my future.)... God started talking about my future. About His plans and my passions. We spoke to each other and I asked about my dreams and His will.

Before I knew it, I had a glimpse of the plan and could start doing things that brought me in line with what God wanted. But He did not give me the solution easily. I had to trust Him in the most uncertain period of my life.

And He rewarded me with blessings and happiness beyond what I had imagined.

Have you ever realized that you need to change the course of your life? Did the uncertainty of not knowing where to go next scare you?


Judy said...

I think putting all trust in God and having faith that He knows best is the hardest and best thing we can learn in this life! Great post!

Peaches Ledwidge said...

You're so right about finding out what made us happy or we can find new ways to make ourselves happy.

Geoff Maritz said...

Funny you should mention being negative before starting a fresh. I'm going through the same sort of thing right now, taking charge of my life that is. I've gotten to the point where I've distanced myself from all negativity and allowed God to just take mover, not that he wasn't in charge all the time anyway. Right now I'm being blessed in the most unexpected ways and, to tell the truth, have no idea where this is going. Hey, isn't that what faith is all about? Am I afraid, no not at all, thrilled actually.
Bless you my wonderful South African Friend, Geoff.

welcome to my world of poetry said...

I've had extremely bad family problems this last year which has made me unhappy, I think the final insult I could take was this:.......It was my grand daughter's birthday on Thursday I sent her a card with some money
(My son for some reason don't want me anymore) I didn't get a phone call or a birthday card myself as we both share the same birthday. So I have decided to stop thinking about what reason my son has to take this step as I know deep down there isn't one and look after myself. I can hold my head up high knowing I have done my best. He has the problem.


KatieKvs said...

I too have faced many situations when I did not know what was happening to me and why. I wondered what wrong had I done to put myself in a misery. And then I looked inside. One because I am a very firm believer in God and also because there was no other option left. I did not get any help/ answers outside :) It is indeed very difficult to move in a certain direction not knowing where it will take you. But that's where you should listen to and trust your instincts; the gut feeling that some of us call it. I admit though that even then, it may take you a long time to realize that it was the right decision to make. After all, the mystery of life is what makes it worthwhile....I read it once and like to believe it.