Friday, April 13, 2012

A to Z Challenge: Learn

This video might be quirky and seemingly unrelated, but it brings more to mind than monkeys and zinger wings. It reminds me about disappointment.

In our lives, we experience things that aren't nice. Like the events I mentioned in yesterday's posts. Things go wrong when they really shouldn't have.

Or something or someone disappoints us. Or worst of all, sometimes we disappoint ourselves.

If we let them, disappointments to create an incredible drag on us as we strive to take charge of our lives. They remind us of the previous times we failed. How much it hurt. How... NOTHING is worth the risk of further disappointment.

And the more we listen and think about them like this, the heavier they become. So instead of just facing the every-day obstacle, we also have to function with what can become a ten ton monkey on our backs. That just steals energy that we need to keep moving (see yesterday).

Unlike the advert, though, our burden grows even more when we indulge it. And when we try to push it aside and away. It will pop up every time you deal with a similar circumstance as the one that disappointed you. Sometimes it even mutated into even bigger problems: Resentment and Bitterness. You really want to stop your disappointment before it grows. Because resentment and bitterness can scar.

So how do you get the disappointment monkey off your back?

Simple answer is to address it. There are two ways to that this. First, by taking it to God. Praying about your disappointments truly do bring a perspective that you need for taking the next step: learning.

Most disappointments hide a lesson in them. And if you can find the lesson, a disappointment actually gets some meaning. And when they mean something, they don't take over your life, except as a way to show you how you should act the next time the same circumstances occur again.

What was your greatest disappointment that was also your biggest lesson?


welcome to my world of poetry said...

My greatest disappointment was moving back to the UK after living in Spain for a few years.

I think we all learn lessons everyday.That's what makes each day exciting.

Enjoyed your L post.

Cynthia said...

I don't know which disappointment I've experienced would be the one to label as the "greatest" one. But I agree that finding a lesson in some of them enables me to grow and move on.

Misha Gericke said...

Do you think you'll ever go back to Spain?

Misha Gericke said...

Yeah... some ones defy our attempts to learn from them, but just our attempting helps us to grow.