Tuesday, November 13, 2012

Starting to Take Charge of Your Life: Part 4

So... I know that I said that this would just be a three part series, but no. Something occurred to me that feels so important that I'm taking time out from NaNo to write about it.

You've taken responsibilities for your life. You've challenged the status quo. You're fighting to do what your supposed to. What more could there be?

Well. Glad you asked.

Owning Your Life

It's pretty closely related to taking responsibility, but it's more of a step further towards taking charge. Where taking responsibility for your life asks: "Why am I letting myself be unhappy?", owning it asks: "What am I going to do about it?" 

It's realizing that merely trying to change your outlook won't make you happy. Changing the way you're going about your life, will. (And it will change your outlook. Trust me.) 

Best of all, you're entitled to do with your life what you want. It's yours. It doesn't belong to your mother, father, husband, wife, children or anyone else. It belongs to you. 

You can allow yourself to go down a downwards spiral with drinking and drugs. Or you can pull yourself up towards a better life that you deserve. You can stay where you are and sacrifice doing what you've been made to do in favor of security. 

It's your life. Your choice. 

But whatever you do, own it. 

If something makes you unhappy, change it. If someone is hurting you, decide how you're going to react. Not based on what things are like now, but on all of your options. Pick the best option. 

Even if putting the best option into action scares the shit out of you. 

More often than not, you'll find things become easy once they've been started on. 

But you need to start making those changes for things to change. It won't be happening on its own. 

Are you owning your life? Do you want to? Are you going to? Are you taking ownership RIGHT NOW? 


Good. Now you really are on your way.