Warning: Rant to follow.
When you're unhappy because of the way that EVERYONE treats you. Have you thought about changing the way you act towards people in the first place?
I'm not talking about abusive husbands and the like.
I'm talking about the fact that you feel lonely because no one says more than a few words to you.
You're miserable because people shut down the moment you speak.
Do you think that it's a conspiracy aimed at making you miserable?
Or at what stage do you think: "mmm... EVERYONE acts this way towards me. Doesn't that make me the common factor to all this? Doesn't that mean that I'm the agent of my own misery?"
Because hell. I've had more than one person telling me that I'm the problem that I've been trying to change. I've tried to improve. I take all this advice and criticism and try to make something positive of it by trying to be a better person.
But the first time these same people get pointed out once that they're also adding to some issues, they throw up their hands and say they're not even trying any more.
Well I'm sorry. But if a person isn't even trying in the first place, what right have they to try to tell me how I should live my life?
How dare anyone criticize me for reacting strongly to certain things that I'm perfectly within my rights to be upset about, but they get to sulk and punish and mope and be sullen with impunity.
I know that I'm not an angel. But I'm not with everyone every time something is said or done to make someone miserable. So they should really stop trying to blame me and take a hard look at what they've been doing to provoke certain reactions.
Because if someone shuts conversation down and complain about people not talking to them.
Or sit to one side and expect people to come after them for conversation.
Or crack highly inappropriate jokes or make little comments "in jest" and then get angry because people don't "get it".
Or snap at people and get mad because they snap back.
Well then, those people have a huge problem, wouldn't you say? And it isn't me. I had nothing to do with it except maybe get caught in the wrong conversation at the wrong time. And yes, I said caught. Because when those people are "not talking to me" because they feel slighted, odds are that I don't want to talk to you either.
And fact is: No one can blame me.
Even if they do.
Okay. Rant over. What are your thoughts? I promise I won't launch a massive attack or anything. This post was a LOOOOOOOONG time in coming.